Enjoy your exchanges

Give and receive.
Not necessarily in that order.
But in equal measure.
Attention is priceless!
We all crave it.
So give as much as you want to receive.
That's the trick!

Are you truly interested in the views and attitudes of others?

What does this mean?
Am I open to others' ideas?
Do I give my full attention to them?
Focusing requires concentration.
What you learn could help.
You and others.
Listen!

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Are you good at choosing and asking for what you want?

No?
Why not?
How else can you feel good?
Choose and ask for what you want!
This is PLEASE.
Check you're causing little or no harm, to yourself and others.
And enjoy cooperating.

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Are your exchanges clean and clear?

This is not about 'dumping' unwanted things on others.
It's about being clear exactly what you have to give and receive.
Checking that the exchange is fair.
Then moving on.
Continuing on your way.
Unencumbered by guilt or blame.
Enjoying every moment.

An attitude of gratitude

Does not mean we have to settle for less than we desire.
We can be thankful for what we have ...
And still feel OK about wanting more.
Desire motivates.
Be grateful you have desires.
Without them you wouldn't move.
All is perfect - including your desires!

"That's not fair!"

What is fair?
We all have different ideas about this.
Yet, fairness is more of a feeling than an idea, isn't it?
Balanced exchange is fair.
When both sides feel fairly treated by the other.
Always balance the scales of fairness.
This doesn't mean they have to be level!

Exchanges need to be fair, not equal

So what's 'fair'?
We all have our own ideas about this.
Fairness is a feeling.
We know when something feels right, feels 'fair'.
We can still accept an unfair exchange ...
But we're likely to feel resentment if we do.
So check what you feel to check what you think!

Fair exchange is no robbery!

New is good.

Unless it isn't!
We learn by experience.
And if it feels good, we generally label the experience 'good'.
And do it again if possible.
Repeated too many times it may become 'old hat'.
Then we need to move on to other new experiences and learning.
You agree?

How open and vulnerable are you?

Are your boundaries strong?
Do you let down your guard?
Only when you feel safe?
Not a 'bad' strategy.
But are you excluding the unknown?
Which might be 'good'?
How will you know unless you try it?

Are you open to this?

If not, say so.
Inform the intrusion.
Or, be more open.
Don't leave the door ajar!
Standing at the crossroads is not moving forwards.
You're in charge.
Are you going to answer the doorbell?

Decide whether to be open or closed.

Neither is wrong.
Both are fine.
Feeling good about whatever you decide is the key.
Decide. Feel good and act.
Whichever path you take will lead to change.
No regrets.
Decide and enjoy!

Be open only if you feel like it.

There's no need to be polite!
You may already be full to over-flowing.
Check it out ... inside ...
And refuse involvement unless you genuinely are interested.
Who knows where this new person or idea might lead?
Be sure you can respond authentically before being called upon to do so!
Then enjoy the moment!

"Hello, hello, hello!"

"What's going on 'ere then?"
Sound familiar?
OK, but how does it feel?
Until we decide enough is enough ...
We can't fully enjoy all that's on our plate right now.
Why keep taking on more ...
When what we have is more than enough?

Open to new ideas?

Are you truly interested in the views and attitudes of others?
There's a lot of them!
Does it feel good to continue exploring new ideas?
Before deciding about 'old' ones?
What do you believe?
Why?
Do your beliefs still serve you well?

Do you allow your attention to wander?

It's so easy, isn't it?
And we know it's happening.
We can feel it.
But what do we do?
Do we pull it back on track?
Refocussing on what's important?
Or do we drift off?

What are you Sorry for?

Nothing?
Are you sure?
Fabulous, if it's true.
Otherwise, what's to be done?
Make amends.
Then and only then can you release guilt and blame.
Is it really worth it?

Ask for attention!

We all need attention.
'Quality time' is priceless.
If you're not getting enough,
Ask for it!
It will come. Not always immediately.
We may need to negotiate ... a little give and take?
What joy, to get what we need!

Refocus when you're distracted.

We're easily distracted, unless we're not!
Focus on one thing at a time.
Feel good about what you're doing.
Or, if you don't, change it.
Feeling good is the key.
Why do anything else?
It makes no sense.

Give yourself the gift of attention!

Giving attention to others is often easier than giving attention to ourselves.
Be curious and interested in what is really going on for you?
Ask yourself ... "How are you?"
... "What are you doing?"
... "Where is it taking you?"
... "Who benefits? Who gets hurt?"
Relax. You have my attention. This time is yours!

Diversion ahead!

I hate that, don't you?
But, can it be a blessing in disguise?
Even when what you're doing feels great, might the diversion be even better?
Decision time!
Anger and resentment? Or curiosity and exploration.
You may not be 'off track' long.
So why not enjoy it too?

Attention is amazing!

Is it not?
Watching it being given or received is fascinating.
Giving and receiving high-quality attention feels wonderful, doesn't it?
Do you pay attention?
At what cost?
Is it worth it?
What's better as a result?

What's the truth?

We know what's true for us, don't we?
Our bodies know, even if our minds sometimes try to fool us.
Telling the truth and lying feel different.
"I'm sorry, but it's true!" can be genuine.
The 'truth' can sometimes hurt.
Especially when we conceal it from ourselves, or others, for so long.
It takes courage and responsibility to reveal it.

Are you hiding anything?

Who's responsible for truth?

We are!
How we see ourselves, the world, all that happens, and our place in it, is our responsibility.
What we perceive to be true may not be!
Check it out.
Ask questions, about yourself and others.
Don't be satisfied until you are.
It's a fabulous life if we let it be.

Easier said than believed, I know.  But it's true!

What vibe are you giving off?

That which is like unto itself is drawn!
You get what you're giving out.
So check how you're really feeling, about everything.
When your body, mind and soul are aligned
And you really want something
That which is like unto itself is drawn!
This is a Universal Law.

Do you get this? Ask and it is given!

Cut it out and be done with it!

Goodbye, in the 7 Words system,
Does NOT mean "see you again".
It means this isn't working for me,
So I won't do it anymore.
Ever!
A way of being and doing is brought to an end.
And new beginnings can begin.

Are you good at Goodbye?

Is truth a feeling?

Feelings alone are rarely enough to determ-IN-e truth.
We use our minds to interpret our feelings and what we consider to be true.
"This just doesn't feel right!"
Yet, sometimes, it's OK to act on nothing other than intuition.
If we're proved 'wrong', so be it.
We can make amends - to others and to our model of the world.
Learn-IN-g from our IN-tuition is a great experience.

Honestly, it's true!

We can't always see what's obvious to others and staring us in the face.
We have to open our minds and contemplate alternative possibilities.
Often, alternatives won't feel comfortable.
No pain, no gain!
New and better ways of thinking and being are the prize.
So why not try something new?
It's got to better than what you do now, right?

"No, I don't want that!" is often an unseen, unspoken truth.

Why are we so afraid to speak our truth?
We think it.
We feel it.
We just stop ourselves speaking it!
Who is really served by this deception?
Certainly not us. And not those around us.
So who?

I choose to agree ... unless I don't!

You either agree, or you don't!
Agreement is more than mental assent.
It's a feeling.
We need to consult our feelings to fully know whether we agree with a particular choice.
So ... how does it feel, to agree fully?
It feels really good, doesn't it?
If it doesn't, think and feel again!

Ask yourself ... "Do I really want this?"

Take responsibility for the choices you make

Don't blame others. And don't blame yourself!
Learn from your mistakes.
If something isn't working, it doesn't make you feel good.
Don't do it anymore. Change something. Make a different choice.
Easier said than done - perhaps. Unless you really see yourself acting differently, before the event!
Take responsibility for your choices - now, and feel good about them.
Only then can we really be happy, knowing we are the master of our own destiny.