When you make mistakes, do you celebrate them?

Are you mostly free from guilt and shame?
We can learn from our mistakes
If we let ourselves feel genuine remorse
And consequently decide to repair the damage and move on.
Another lesson learned. Another notch on our bed of wisdom.
Sorry ain't Sorry unless it releases everyone from guilt, blame and shame.
Let's celebrate our mistakes, feel Sorry, learn and apply the hard-won lessons.

Can you say Sorry and mean it? And what does Sorry mean?

Who loses?

"Isn't it sad when we don't take responsibility?" - NiSr

When no-one takes responsibility,

its easy to blame others,

anyone, except ourselves,

for harmful actions or inaction.

Let's stand up and be counted,

especially when we make mistakes.

Isn't that better for everyone?

Absolutely perfect!

"Accept remorse and then repair." - YaSr

The truth is I have taken my body for granted.

And yet it has and can continue to serve me well.

Provided I look after it.

It's not easy changing the habits of a lifetime.

It takes vision, intention, help and unwavering expectation of success.

By all means feel remorse about your current bodily state if appropriate, then repair it.

To perfection, for it is perfect for you!

Feelings help. Don't regret regret!

"I will cooperate with all I need to do to reduce my BMI to 25 and then keep it at or below this level." - SRPC

But, exactly what is required to achieve this?

How can I cooperate, if I don't know what's required?

Feelings offer useful clues.

Begin and end with "Does this feel good?"

Cooperation included.

If not, ask yourself (and perhaps others) "Why do I feel this way?"

Agree what is, and act accordingly.

"Big boys don't cry!" ... but don't they need to?

"I accept that remorse is a feeling not a thought, that I need to accept it, not shun it, and only then can repair begin." - SRYA

We're often taught not to admit mistakes or fault.

Isn't that a mistake?

How can we learn to love ourselves if we can't love and feel remorse about the errors we make?

Trial and error is all part of the adventure of life and growth.

We are likely to falter on unfamiliar ground.

That needn't stop us treading new pathways.

Ultimately only good can come from it.

Feel it to heal it!

"When I don't feel any remorse about a situation or condition, particularly my health, I look for the harm being done." - SRSR

If we don't feel it, we can't heal it.

Look for the harm being done.

Be grateful when feelings of remorse arise.

Decide to let them come and really feel them.

This is a major step towards repairing the damage.

Find within, your "I can do this!"

Improvement is then inevitable.

Intended In-tension doesn't work - relax!

"To achieve and keep my BMI below 25, I intend to feel the consequences of 'over-eating' before I do so." - SRPI

Ask yourself ...

Have you identified your intention?

Is it clear?

Does it feel good? Any tension?

Even when you're doing it?

Have you imag-in-ed (in-imaged, and imaged-in) the consequences?

Does it still feel good?

OK ... then relax, and do it!

Feeling good about feeling bad!

"I greatly value feelings that inform me I'm off-centre, that things aren't right." - SRTV

Our bodies tell us when things aren't right.

This is good!

Such feelings are to be welcomed ...

And then acted upon.

What is it I really want instead?

That will make be feel better.

Accept this. You know it's right!

Where's the harm?

"I am open to exploring new ways to access and feel genuine remorse about harm caused." - SRHO

To feel remorse about harm caused, we've got to identify the harm.

So, ask yourself ... "Where's the harm?"

In this biscuit, cake, snack ... etc.

Feel it ... with com-passion. Then decide ...

Am I really going to do this? Do I really want this?

And the consequences?

Whatever you decide, do it with feeling!

Finding fault, fixing it & feeling fine!

"I feel remorse (sad) when I mistake negative (not bad) thoughts and feelings (not guilt) about my weight, shape and health as part of my identity." - SRNI

It's OK to feel sad but not bad when we make mistakes.

Don't feel guilty or b-Lame. Guilt and blame help no-one.

Find the fault, find a way to fix it, and feel fine.