Enjoy your exchanges

Give and receive.
Not necessarily in that order.
But in equal measure.
Attention is priceless!
We all crave it.
So give as much as you want to receive.
That's the trick!

Are you truly interested in the views and attitudes of others?

What does this mean?
Am I open to others' ideas?
Do I give my full attention to them?
Focusing requires concentration.
What you learn could help.
You and others.
Listen!

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Are you good at choosing and asking for what you want?

No?
Why not?
How else can you feel good?
Choose and ask for what you want!
This is PLEASE.
Check you're causing little or no harm, to yourself and others.
And enjoy cooperating.

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Are your exchanges clean and clear?

This is not about 'dumping' unwanted things on others.
It's about being clear exactly what you have to give and receive.
Checking that the exchange is fair.
Then moving on.
Continuing on your way.
Unencumbered by guilt or blame.
Enjoying every moment.

An attitude of gratitude

Does not mean we have to settle for less than we desire.
We can be thankful for what we have ...
And still feel OK about wanting more.
Desire motivates.
Be grateful you have desires.
Without them you wouldn't move.
All is perfect - including your desires!

"That's not fair!"

What is fair?
We all have different ideas about this.
Yet, fairness is more of a feeling than an idea, isn't it?
Balanced exchange is fair.
When both sides feel fairly treated by the other.
Always balance the scales of fairness.
This doesn't mean they have to be level!

Exchanges need to be fair, not equal

So what's 'fair'?
We all have our own ideas about this.
Fairness is a feeling.
We know when something feels right, feels 'fair'.
We can still accept an unfair exchange ...
But we're likely to feel resentment if we do.
So check what you feel to check what you think!

Fair exchange is no robbery!

New is good.

Unless it isn't!
We learn by experience.
And if it feels good, we generally label the experience 'good'.
And do it again if possible.
Repeated too many times it may become 'old hat'.
Then we need to move on to other new experiences and learning.
You agree?

How open and vulnerable are you?

Are your boundaries strong?
Do you let down your guard?
Only when you feel safe?
Not a 'bad' strategy.
But are you excluding the unknown?
Which might be 'good'?
How will you know unless you try it?

Are you open to this?

If not, say so.
Inform the intrusion.
Or, be more open.
Don't leave the door ajar!
Standing at the crossroads is not moving forwards.
You're in charge.
Are you going to answer the doorbell?

Decide whether to be open or closed.

Neither is wrong.
Both are fine.
Feeling good about whatever you decide is the key.
Decide. Feel good and act.
Whichever path you take will lead to change.
No regrets.
Decide and enjoy!

Be open only if you feel like it.

There's no need to be polite!
You may already be full to over-flowing.
Check it out ... inside ...
And refuse involvement unless you genuinely are interested.
Who knows where this new person or idea might lead?
Be sure you can respond authentically before being called upon to do so!
Then enjoy the moment!

"Hello, hello, hello!"

"What's going on 'ere then?"
Sound familiar?
OK, but how does it feel?
Until we decide enough is enough ...
We can't fully enjoy all that's on our plate right now.
Why keep taking on more ...
When what we have is more than enough?

Open to new ideas?

Are you truly interested in the views and attitudes of others?
There's a lot of them!
Does it feel good to continue exploring new ideas?
Before deciding about 'old' ones?
What do you believe?
Why?
Do your beliefs still serve you well?

Do you allow your attention to wander?

It's so easy, isn't it?
And we know it's happening.
We can feel it.
But what do we do?
Do we pull it back on track?
Refocussing on what's important?
Or do we drift off?

What are you Sorry for?

Nothing?
Are you sure?
Fabulous, if it's true.
Otherwise, what's to be done?
Make amends.
Then and only then can you release guilt and blame.
Is it really worth it?

Ask for attention!

We all need attention.
'Quality time' is priceless.
If you're not getting enough,
Ask for it!
It will come. Not always immediately.
We may need to negotiate ... a little give and take?
What joy, to get what we need!

Refocus when you're distracted.

We're easily distracted, unless we're not!
Focus on one thing at a time.
Feel good about what you're doing.
Or, if you don't, change it.
Feeling good is the key.
Why do anything else?
It makes no sense.

Give yourself the gift of attention!

Giving attention to others is often easier than giving attention to ourselves.
Be curious and interested in what is really going on for you?
Ask yourself ... "How are you?"
... "What are you doing?"
... "Where is it taking you?"
... "Who benefits? Who gets hurt?"
Relax. You have my attention. This time is yours!

Diversion ahead!

I hate that, don't you?
But, can it be a blessing in disguise?
Even when what you're doing feels great, might the diversion be even better?
Decision time!
Anger and resentment? Or curiosity and exploration.
You may not be 'off track' long.
So why not enjoy it too?

Attention is amazing!

Is it not?
Watching it being given or received is fascinating.
Giving and receiving high-quality attention feels wonderful, doesn't it?
Do you pay attention?
At what cost?
Is it worth it?
What's better as a result?

What's the truth?

We know what's true for us, don't we?
Our bodies know, even if our minds sometimes try to fool us.
Telling the truth and lying feel different.
"I'm sorry, but it's true!" can be genuine.
The 'truth' can sometimes hurt.
Especially when we conceal it from ourselves, or others, for so long.
It takes courage and responsibility to reveal it.

Are you hiding anything?

Who's responsible for truth?

We are!
How we see ourselves, the world, all that happens, and our place in it, is our responsibility.
What we perceive to be true may not be!
Check it out.
Ask questions, about yourself and others.
Don't be satisfied until you are.
It's a fabulous life if we let it be.

Easier said than believed, I know.  But it's true!

What vibe are you giving off?

That which is like unto itself is drawn!
You get what you're giving out.
So check how you're really feeling, about everything.
When your body, mind and soul are aligned
And you really want something
That which is like unto itself is drawn!
This is a Universal Law.

Do you get this? Ask and it is given!

Cut it out and be done with it!

Goodbye, in the 7 Words system,
Does NOT mean "see you again".
It means this isn't working for me,
So I won't do it anymore.
Ever!
A way of being and doing is brought to an end.
And new beginnings can begin.

Are you good at Goodbye?

Is truth a feeling?

Feelings alone are rarely enough to determ-IN-e truth.
We use our minds to interpret our feelings and what we consider to be true.
"This just doesn't feel right!"
Yet, sometimes, it's OK to act on nothing other than intuition.
If we're proved 'wrong', so be it.
We can make amends - to others and to our model of the world.
Learn-IN-g from our IN-tuition is a great experience.

Honestly, it's true!

We can't always see what's obvious to others and staring us in the face.
We have to open our minds and contemplate alternative possibilities.
Often, alternatives won't feel comfortable.
No pain, no gain!
New and better ways of thinking and being are the prize.
So why not try something new?
It's got to better than what you do now, right?

"No, I don't want that!" is often an unseen, unspoken truth.

Why are we so afraid to speak our truth?
We think it.
We feel it.
We just stop ourselves speaking it!
Who is really served by this deception?
Certainly not us. And not those around us.
So who?

I choose to agree ... unless I don't!

You either agree, or you don't!
Agreement is more than mental assent.
It's a feeling.
We need to consult our feelings to fully know whether we agree with a particular choice.
So ... how does it feel, to agree fully?
It feels really good, doesn't it?
If it doesn't, think and feel again!

Ask yourself ... "Do I really want this?"

Take responsibility for the choices you make

Don't blame others. And don't blame yourself!
Learn from your mistakes.
If something isn't working, it doesn't make you feel good.
Don't do it anymore. Change something. Make a different choice.
Easier said than done - perhaps. Unless you really see yourself acting differently, before the event!
Take responsibility for your choices - now, and feel good about them.
Only then can we really be happy, knowing we are the master of our own destiny.

Are you good at choosing and asking for what you want?

No?
Ever wondered why?
How does it feel not to have your needs recognized and met?
What needs to change so they are?
Choose and ask for what you want.
Then, and only then, can you negotiate about the order in which all choices are met.
Yours and others'.

Realize the choices you make.

Say No to others' choices if they're not what you want.
Think about what you really want instead.
Consult your feelings.
Then choose and act.
Go for what gives you pleasure.
Without regrets.
It's the only way we can all be happy, isn't it?

Choice is a gift.

Unless we give, we can't receive.
We are always the first to receive in the act of giving.
Doesn't it feel good to give a gift?
No strings attached.
Just the shear pleasure of giving a well-chosen gift.
No strings attached?
What joy!

Make each choice a gift!

Curious about choices and those you make?

We all make choices all the time, even when we don't!
What choices are you making?
Do they serve you & make you feel good about yourself?
If not, make different choices.
Learn how to choose & how to ask for what you choose.
Otherwise no-one, including yourself, can ever give you what you desire.
Where's the fun in that?

Choose how satisfied you are!

There's always a choice!

Even when we don't choose.
That's a choice.
It doesn't feel as good. It's not as empowering.
Making up your own mind and acting on it ...
That's choice!
If what you choose is not 'right' for you ...
Then, you've learned something really valuable.

Accept who you are and what you can become!

Your body can't lie! You know it can't.
We sometimes like to think otherwise.
But who are we fooling?
No-one except ourselves!
We are how we are, and we can be how we choose.
What we choose might mean work.
So be it!
 

When you make mistakes, do you celebrate them?

Are you mostly free from guilt and shame?
We can learn from our mistakes
If we let ourselves feel genuine remorse
And consequently decide to repair the damage and move on.
Another lesson learned. Another notch on our bed of wisdom.
Sorry ain't Sorry unless it releases everyone from guilt, blame and shame.
Let's celebrate our mistakes, feel Sorry, learn and apply the hard-won lessons.

Can you say Sorry and mean it? And what does Sorry mean?

Are you good at choosing and asking for what you want?

No?
Then are you a people-pleaser?
It feels good when those around us have what they want.
But what about what WE want?
If we're not getting what we want because we're no good at choosing and asking for it,
then, it's likely we're always doing what others want, which will eventually lead to resentment and blame.
And that's not good!

Have the courage to choose and ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT!

It's impossible to be helped until what's wanted is known - SPEAK UP!

Cut it out!

Fix it, or get rid of it.
If it no longer serves you, be done with it.
Otherwise it's just a burden - a heavy, unnecessary load.
Put it down. Let it go. Leave it behind.
Oh, what freedom! What delight - to walk on without it.
No blame. No shame. No guilt.
It was what it was, and now you are what you are - lighter!

End activities and habits that no longer serve your well-being

Do you give sufficient care and attention to the health of your body, mind and soul?

It's so easy to take our health for granted, unless it isn't.
There is so much else these days clamouring for our attention.
How often do we really check in with our bodies when asked "How are you?"
Are we tired, achey, less than 100% in some way ... yet, do we admit it?
What would be better?
What would it take?
A little more TLC? Think about it.

Next time someone asks "How are you?" ask yourself "How healthy am I?"
Can you reply truly "I'm fit and healthy, thank you. You?"

Do you have a healthy and varied social life?

Do you say 'Hello' too often? I do.
It means I sometimes feel overwhelmed with all that's going on in my life.
What's the answer? Value far more what I already have, and practice saying No to more new things.
I can also cut out unhelpful habits and activities to create more space in my life.
Then I can do more of what I really enjoy.
Without feeling guilty.
"Healthy" is the key here!

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Do you stick to your No decisions?

Can you say No, easily?  And when you do, do you stick to it?
When is it more difficult?
Saying Yes just to please others isn't a good idea.  It creates feelings of resentment.
Just say No!
Then you can do, or continue to do, exactly and only what you want to do.
There's no need to apologize or feel guilty.
Accepting that we all have the right to say No will make the world a better place.

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Do you wake up feeling enthusiastic?

Set clear boundaries.
Don't worry about what you're missing.
Enjoy what you have.
It's a better way to be.
You can always move your boundaries later, if you wish.
Without guilt or blame.
Be enthusiastic, about your entire life!

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Can you forgive and forget?

I stop those who intrude, and forgive them.
For me, the first is more difficult than the second - or is it?
The second is easier if I actually do the first.
Stopping intrusion is the key.
So let's do it.
Then we can forgive those who try to intrude.
Allowing cleaner more authentic relationships to emerge.

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We all choose, all the time

"A complete choice." - NcGc

A choice isn't a choice until it is!

Wavering isn't choosing.

Liking both or many options is OK.

Choosing cuts a path.

I'm going this way, not that way.

Regret is pointless - or is it?

Whatever you choose is fine - it's your life!

Feeling thanks.

"Feeling good about gratitude" - NcTg

How do I know

What's best for me?

I feel like giving thanks - positive gratitude.

My whole being is in alignment.

I'm on track.

No apology necessary.

All is well.

Don't settle for less than your best

"Is this best, for me?" - NcHe

Don't sabotage yourSelf.

Think.

Do I really want this?

If not, decide to do something else.

Something that serves you better.

What's best for you is what's best for others.

Don't doubt it.

I have no choice?

"There's no such thing as no choice!" - NcNc

I choose.

Consciously or unconsciously.

I choose what I want.

Always.

Making choices conscious choices,

That's the challenge.

I can do it.

Let's start from here - accepting where we are

"Identifying the problem" - NiYa

Do I accept who I am?

Am I sure?

Do I like who I am?

Do I want to change anything?

What do I want to change?

Who will that affect?

Does it matter?

Who loses?

"Isn't it sad when we don't take responsibility?" - NiSr

When no-one takes responsibility,

its easy to blame others,

anyone, except ourselves,

for harmful actions or inaction.

Let's stand up and be counted,

especially when we make mistakes.

Isn't that better for everyone?

Intend and expect success

"I am successful!" - NiPi

Vision without action is a daydream.

Action without vision is a nightmare!

It's true, dreams can't come true unless you have them.

However, just dreaming won't make dreams come true.

We need to want things passionately and intend to have them.

That's the difference that makes the difference.

Picture plus passion is 'prayer'. You Expect Success - YES!

Identifying who I am by what I'm doing

"My decisions create my identity." - NiGd

What I do

Is who I am.

I may not like all I do now.

That's OK. I can change things.

When I do only what I want to do

I don't have to apologise for being inauthentic.

Authenticity celebrates unique identity.

Who am I & what do I think?

"Valuing who I am and what I think." - NiTv

Denying who I am and what I really think helps no-one.

Least of all, me.

Acknowledging and valuing unique identity & thoughts

Is vital to self-esteem and well-being.

Knowing and growing who I am and what I think is what life is all about.

Rectifying mistakes - outcomes we don't like - is part of the process.

Accepting what is, is the best place to start.

Considering new ideas

"Shaping & reshaping my thinking." - NiHo

What and how I think is part of my identity.

I am open to new ways of thinking.

Feeling what resonates with me.

When I meet ideas that jar, I consider them ...

To see what they're offering me.

Integrating the learning, positive & negative.

Accepting what does and does not work for me at this time.

Knowing who you are!

"Identifying what you are not." - NiNi

I most definitely am not someone who ........

What?

That! (What?)

OK.

What are you then?

Whatever I choose to be.

Great! What do choose to be right now?

One step at a time

"Step by step!" - NbYp

Boundaries are great!

Where would we be without them?

"All at sea!"

Anchor yourself, wherever you are.

Then step out on the next leg of your journey.

Don't wait.

There are endless possibilities. Enjoy as many as you can.

Live and let live.

"Be responsive to boundaries." - NbSr

Boundaries exist.

Everywhere.

We need to feel them.

And respect them.

Otherwise damage will be done.

Our responsibility is to set and maintain our own boundaries.

Whilst allowing others to do the same.

Blurred vision?

"Create what's not there!" - NbPv

It's not there now.

Or is it?

Perhaps you can sense it coming?

Deciding in advance ...

Seeing in to the future ...

What you'd like to see.

That's how it can be.

Realize what needs strengthening

"Stand your ground." - NbGr

Boundaries can be crossed.

If they're open.

Weakness, like strength, is felt.

Realize what needs to be strengthened.

And strengthen it.

Apologize if appropriate.

And stand.

Grateful for boundaries

"Whenever two things meet ... " - NbTa

Boundaries

Whether strong or weak

Give us clues

About how to behave in situations

We can assert our will

Backing-off if it offends

Or we can dance, enjoying the interaction.

We define ourselves with these.

"Meeting and paying attention to boundaries." - NbHa

Boundaries abound in physicality.

What do we do when we sense them?

Respect them?

Attack them?

What we want isn't necessarily what others want.

Se we violate, negotiate or walk away.

What's it to be?

Reaching and crossing the boundary!

"Is there no limit to this?" - NbNb

The answer is No. I'm not going to stop my diet.

No debate.

I'm absolutely certain.

Today, having reached my first target, I continue.

Another 7lbs in another 7 weeks.

And the beginning of Phase II of my '7 Words Diet'.

28 weeks of clarifying my thinking, using 7 Words.

What an achievement!

"And now it continues!" - YsYs

No, I'm not giving up!

I already have my next target worked out and in my sights.

It feels good to be on target.

I've lost 28 lbs in 28 weeks, just as I intended, my BMI is now 25.8.

Now I intend to lose another 7 lbs in 7 weeks.

So, by 1 September 2011, I will have lost 35 lbs in 35 weeks.

And my BMI will then be 24.6, below 25 - at which point I am no longer 'overweight'!

Surrender to the urge?

"Instinctive impulses are good ... usually!" - YsSr

Release all guilt and blame.

They serve no-one.

Least of all you.

Live life to the full.

Do whatever that means for you.

Consider all consequences.

They're part of it!

Passionate about losing weight and being healthy?

"YES - You Expect Success!" - YsPp

Praying? What's the point?

Picture plus passion is prayer.

Are you passionate about losing weight and being healthy?

Can you picture it? Being slimmer? Being healthier?

Praying with any doubt won't work!

Be sure what you want, ask for it, and let it come.

Then celebrate the inevitable!

One with our food

"Surrender and move on." - YsGm

Moving on ...

What comes after surrender?

Answer ... you do.

Everything starts and continues with No.

Who you are and what you do ...

... is up to you.

Happy with that?

The essence of surrender

"I won't say no to that!" - YsTh

Does it touch you?

Surrender?

It can, if we let it.

Feel yourself let go.

Trusting all will be well.

Including your physicality.

Be touched.

Whether we like it or not ...

"We are what we eat!" - YsHc

Many dislike the idea of surrender - "I'm not going to eat that!"

But what exactly is it? What does it mean, to surrender?

What does it ... can it ... feel like?

It needn't mean giving in or giving up - and eating things you'd really rather not.

It can mean active trust, complete trust, that all will be and is indeed well.

We need to take responsibility for what we choose to eat, and what we choose to trust.

Then we can actively and positively surrender to what must be.

Trust and surrender

"Surrender to freedom!" - YsNt

True surrender?

What's that all about?

The feeling of complete trust that whatever happens is fine.

Better than fine.

Absolutely delightful.

What a relief, a release ... true freedom.

Let go and let 'god' - and 'god' includes you and me!

We agree?

"I agree. I agree. I do!" - YaYa

How can I not agree?

I either agree or I don't. Doubt means I don't!

Agreement is a feeling.

Acting as if I agree when I don't won't work.

It's not what I want to be doing.

So I won't do it. It's in no-one's best interest.

Least of all mine.

Token or total?

"Do you really mean it?" - YaSr

Agreements aren't always upheld.

Sometimes we let ourselves and others down.

Alignment is lost.

Temporarily or forever.

What happens then, like everything, is up to us.

Damage can be repaired, or compounded.

Outcomes demonstrate whether the agreement was token or total.

Good God?

"Ask for and receive cooperative support to implement your agreements." - YaPc

You can't do it alone!

At least, not as well, or as fast.

We can all use a little help at times.

So seek it.

It will come. It has to.

Our job is to recognise it when it arrives.

Welcome and embrace it.

In-complete agreement?

"Agreement is complete!" - YaGc

Agreement is in-herently complete.

Signed and sealed, inner moment.

Handshakes and hugs.

Moving-on ...

With clear, shared aims

And greater awareness

Of what must be.

It's a gift! Don't forget it!

"Give yourself the gift of agreement." - YaTg

Agreement is a gift.

No contract necessary.

I want what you want.

Inner and outer alignment.

No wavering.

Until there is.

And then gratitude that an agreement exists realigns.

On target? What's next?

"Make a deal with yourself." - YaHe

First day of second half of the year and I'm right on target!

New horizons beckon.

Life feels good.

What's next?

Achieving my next target ...

... which is a BMI of 25, currently 25.7

Q.E.D.* - Quite Easily Done!

(*quod erat demonstrandum which means "what was to be demonstrated".)

No choice but to agree?

"No choice but to agree is not agreement, unless it is!" - YaNc

I don't agree!

That's interesting. Why is that?

It doesn't feel right.

OK. What can we do to help change things ...

For the better?

Listen.

We can do that. Let's do that.

Ok. Ok.

"Accept acceptance." - YaYa

If it's not OK, whatever 'it' is, our bodies know.

And 'tell' us somehow.

So, is it OK? Does it feel OK?

If not, are you changing anything ...

To make it OK?

Do you accept the signals your body gives you?

Are they obvious and trustworthy?

Absolutely perfect!

"Accept remorse and then repair." - YaSr

The truth is I have taken my body for granted.

And yet it has and can continue to serve me well.

Provided I look after it.

It's not easy changing the habits of a lifetime.

It takes vision, intention, help and unwavering expectation of success.

By all means feel remorse about your current bodily state if appropriate, then repair it.

To perfection, for it is perfect for you!

You want to relax, right?

"Intend to accept." - YaPi

I can't just relax!

I should be doing something ... anything ... but relax!

I know feeling relaxed is wonderful, freedom from pressure, imposition

Having to try to relax is bizarre, right?

Breathe ... and accept the intention to rest for a while

Take a moment to rise above it all, to look down at yourself from above

Now what's your intention?

Accept your decisions!

"Yes, you can say No!" - YaGd

In a shop, restaurant or pub, you don't have to buy, eat or drink anything.

You can just look ...

And enjoy the abundance.

And you can decide to only get what you really need.

Not what others are trying to persuade you to consume.

Let others buy and consume all they want.

Accept you can say Yes for yourself only when you really want to.

Yes TV? No!

"What's really important here, now? See, accept and value it." - YaTv

Drinking more water. Eating more fruit. Continuing to swim.

Focusing on what I eat and drink.

Valuing myself, my health, my fitness and feeling good.

Changing my diet has changed my physique, my attitude and my relationship with Self.

I see and accept things differently now.

Especially the consequences of what I eat and drink.

And the changes are good.

Indifference or apathy?

"I don't mind either. Please yourself." - YaHo

What's going on is what's going on!

Open to accept it.

How does it feel?

Say Goodbye to what doesn't feel good - coffee?

Drink more water.

Accept you need to rest and relax.

Accept whatever others do is their business, not yours.

Crossing the line!

"Not bothered either way?" - YaNi

Our bodies don't lie.

Accept who, how and where you choose to be.

And what you feel about that.

If it's not OK, change it.

Into something better.

How will you know it's better?

Your body and your emotions will tell you.

Let go ... and let life ... be!

"Relax. Let yourself go!" - YPYP

Not your health. Don't let that go!

Rather, permit yourself to explore new ideas about healthy living.

Feel the relief of allowing rather than preventing.

Of embracing and expanding rather than shunning and contracting.

Intend to live well.

Regret times when you haven't and don't.

Life and well-being are as good as we allow them to be.

Yes or No?

"Oh ... please?" - YPSR

"I'm Sorry, but No!"

How often do we hear that?

Is it sincere?

What do we do about it?

Is it what we want, to say, or hear?

Is apology necessary?

Do we permit ourselves and others to say Yes, and No?

Healthy living goes on and on ...

"Permit yourself a vision beyond completing your current goal." - YPPV

Yes is not the end. It's a beginning.

What's next?

Continuing the journey of healthy living.

With a new goal.

Seeing it already achieved.

Building on the good work already done, not undoing it.

Then seeing what feels right beyond that.

Cut it out!

"I realise I permit a lot that I don't really want and I have to stop doing that." - YPGR

Maybe is No.

Reluctance is inner refusal.

Beyond reluctance, over the bridge of maybe, is the beginning of inclination to permit.

Use your real eyes to realize exactly what's happening.

What's your real IN-clination?

Do you really want this?

Yes or No? Either is OK. Go with it!

Keep out?

"Appreciate your boundaries. Only from there can you welcome Yes." - YPTA

I'm grateful I only need my permission to choose what I eat and drink.

Permission considers and decides.

It's felt.

As contraction or expansion - fear or love.

Do you flinch or embrace this?

Is it intrusive or welcome?

Permit a different unfolding.

What a great idea!

"Permit yourself to perceive this diet differently."

The 7 Words Diet is not just another good idea.

It's a way of life.

It's about appreciating how you feel, and feeling better.

About everything you do.

Do you see?

Take responsibility for what gets and holds your attention.

Permit it to change. It's different now, right?

Almost there!

"The journey is from No to Yes ... and on again to No!" - YPNB

A whole 28 days of Yes!

Extending horizons - not my waistline!

We feel Yes, relaxing our No.

Yes motivates, if we permit it, until we flinch - which we do!

If you're in tension about your IN-tentions ...

Then your Yes is a little reluctant.

Relax. Permit a little more ... and see what happens.

Don't fight Sorry. Embrace it.

"Sorry is positively OK. What a relief!" - SRYS

Surrender (positively) to Sorry & the benefits of release from guilt and blame.

What a wonderful idea!

It's great feeling good about being Sorry.

Embrace release from guilt.

Blame no-one.

Need no apology.

Release the tension of separation. Reuniting is beautiful.

Give the gift of freedom.

"Forget forgiveness. There's nothing to forgive!" - SRSR

Forgive AND forget ... other-wise you haven't for-given.

Let it all go. Wipe the slate clean.

You'll feel better. Much better. Give the gift of freedom.

Be free.

Expect success.

There's actually nothing to forgive anyway.

All is well. Life is good.

What do you expect?

"Beyond what the mirror reflects is how I want to be. I see and expect it." - SRPP

Our bodies don't lie and neither do our scales.

We know what we expect.

Even if we don't like it!

The trick is to decide to make and then expect things to be different.

VisuaL-eyes, IN-tend, and expect what you do want.

Release all guilt and blame.

What will be is what you will!

Excess baggage?

"I don't need or want this. I'm moving on without it." - SRGM

You've already decided.

Remember?

Your body does!

Honour your decision and your body.

Look where you are and where you're going.

Will your next step take you further from or closer to your goal?

Surrender to the goal. It's what you want & better than you can possibly imagine!

Touching can be very telling!

"The gift of for-giving touches the heart and releases tears of relief, re-Life, gratitude and joy." - SRTH

Forgiving grudgingly is not for-giving.

Spiteful and malicious thoughts don't help.

They only harm.

Tear them out. Let them go and move on.

Revitalise your future, free from guilt and blame.

Expect success.

It's there for the taking.

Swimmingly good!

"Immersed in freedom!" - SRHC

Back in the pool

Enjoy-in-g the flow

Feeling good

Don't you know?

Stroking the future in to being

Anchors away

Let's go!

On track ... just!

"I don't like being overweight!" - SRNT

I've lost 23 lbs in 23 weeks!

The idea is to lose 28 lbs in 28 weeks.

Being 'on track' feels good. Being 'off track' doesn't.

Leaving old eating habits behind requires decision & discipline.

I will and expect to achieve my weight loss goals.

Releasing all guilt and blame about previous 'bad' habits would be good.

I need to re-Learn the reaL ease of reLease.

Some things are meant to be broken!

"Replacing harmful habits with healthy ones is a good thing to do." - SRYA

Broken isn't useful - or is it? What about breaking the mould of bad habits?

Get in to the habit of exchanging sacred forms of energy - money, food, drink - to repair well-being.

Re-pairing is a gift, for the giver and receiver.

Completing repairs, like this diet, can take time - "A job worth doing is worth doing well."

Ask for help when you need it.

Healing is quicker then, for all concerned.

This is how it's meant to be.

In a sorry state?

"Done well, this repair won't need repair!" - SRSR

Forgiveness and re-pairing arises from a state.

The sixth plane state of Sorry.

It's a wonderful state to be in.

Try it.

It provides a whole new perspective.

Re-pair-in-g looks different from here.

All is well.

Feelings help. Don't regret regret!

"I will cooperate with all I need to do to reduce my BMI to 25 and then keep it at or below this level." - SRPC

But, exactly what is required to achieve this?

How can I cooperate, if I don't know what's required?

Feelings offer useful clues.

Begin and end with "Does this feel good?"

Cooperation included.

If not, ask yourself (and perhaps others) "Why do I feel this way?"

Agree what is, and act accordingly.

Eating less? Finish what you start!

"Completing this diet is bringing to an end being overweight. It's repairing my body." - SRGC

I'm choosing to lose weight and repair my body.

Exchanging old ideas about my body with new thoughts.

I like re-evaluating and valuing my body and health.

Completion continues. Phase one ends 14/7/11.

Lapses don't help.

Repair then needs repair!

Until I agree once more with what I'm eating.

Repair is a gift that re-pairs!

"Following remorse, the gift of repair is release." - SRTG

Repair is a choice that reaffirms boundaries.

It's an energetic exchange.

It's a gift that restores balance and harmony.

It must be completed ...

... to the satisfaction of all involved.

Then and only then can repair re-pair.

Agreed?

No need to feel bad ... for long!

"Repairing, 'making good', enables me to exchange feeling bad for feeling good." - SRHE

When we discover we've caused harm,

Think and check exactly what harm has been done and how.

It's likely, we'll feel differently about it than others.

What can be done?

Ask ... "How can I make amends?"

Repair the damage.

And then agree all bad feeling (guilt and blame) is gone - great!

Re-pair inner and outer.

"I choose to repair the damage I've done to myself by being overweight - re-pairing and realigning my inner and outer states." - SRNC

When we're off track, we need to (re-)adjust our course.

Zig-zagging is one way forward.

A direct approach can be better.

Don't dance around the issue.

Tackle it, head on!

Be nice! Strong words, softly spoken.

Life is good ... isn't it?

"Big boys don't cry!" ... but don't they need to?

"I accept that remorse is a feeling not a thought, that I need to accept it, not shun it, and only then can repair begin." - SRYA

We're often taught not to admit mistakes or fault.

Isn't that a mistake?

How can we learn to love ourselves if we can't love and feel remorse about the errors we make?

Trial and error is all part of the adventure of life and growth.

We are likely to falter on unfamiliar ground.

That needn't stop us treading new pathways.

Ultimately only good can come from it.

Feel it to heal it!

"When I don't feel any remorse about a situation or condition, particularly my health, I look for the harm being done." - SRSR

If we don't feel it, we can't heal it.

Look for the harm being done.

Be grateful when feelings of remorse arise.

Decide to let them come and really feel them.

This is a major step towards repairing the damage.

Find within, your "I can do this!"

Improvement is then inevitable.

Intended In-tension doesn't work - relax!

"To achieve and keep my BMI below 25, I intend to feel the consequences of 'over-eating' before I do so." - SRPI

Ask yourself ...

Have you identified your intention?

Is it clear?

Does it feel good? Any tension?

Even when you're doing it?

Have you imag-in-ed (in-imaged, and imaged-in) the consequences?

Does it still feel good?

OK ... then relax, and do it!

BMI - Body M-in-D IN-dex?

"I feel remorse for exceeding a BMI (Body Mass Index) of 25. I've decided to reach and maintain a BMI of 25 or less." - SRGD

Changing your m-IN-d about BMI is all in the M-in-D.

Become MD of what goes IN to your body and what goes on in your M-in-D.

I use '7 Words' and the '7WordsDiet' to do this.

You can too.

Decide to exercise the daily discipline and delight of direc't-IN-g' (hear that?) your life.

Feel good.

Enjoy be-IN-g MD!

Feeling good about feeling bad!

"I greatly value feelings that inform me I'm off-centre, that things aren't right." - SRTV

Our bodies tell us when things aren't right.

This is good!

Such feelings are to be welcomed ...

And then acted upon.

What is it I really want instead?

That will make be feel better.

Accept this. You know it's right!

Where's the harm?

"I am open to exploring new ways to access and feel genuine remorse about harm caused." - SRHO

To feel remorse about harm caused, we've got to identify the harm.

So, ask yourself ... "Where's the harm?"

In this biscuit, cake, snack ... etc.

Feel it ... with com-passion. Then decide ...

Am I really going to do this? Do I really want this?

And the consequences?

Whatever you decide, do it with feeling!

Finding fault, fixing it & feeling fine!

"I feel remorse (sad) when I mistake negative (not bad) thoughts and feelings (not guilt) about my weight, shape and health as part of my identity." - SRNI

It's OK to feel sad but not bad when we make mistakes.

Don't feel guilty or b-Lame. Guilt and blame help no-one.

Find the fault, find a way to fix it, and feel fine.

Treat yourself - well!

"Giving myself permission to be responsible for my health allows delightfully different outcomes." - SRYP

Enjoy responsibility - your ability to respond.

Our bodies and health are responses to how we treat them.

Treat yourself - well!

Making healthy mistakes

"I am responsible for my mistakes, the consequences to my health and impact on others." - SRSR

Mistakes are OK. They're more than OK.

Provided we learn from them ... and celebrate that learning!

Aiming for and hitting the target!

"I take responsibility for aiming carefully and see myself hitting my target!" - SRPV
What are you aiming at?
Will you hit it?

What's the secret?

Know where you are.

Today's position is SRG - Sorry/Responsibility/Goodbye/Realisation

Affirmation:

I realise that as I shed weight, the responsibility to celebrate, enjoy, maintain & continue on this path and every path I choose is mine.

Make sense?

Thanks for Responsibility

"I am grateful I can and have taken responsibility for my physicality and my progress and success in life."

An attitude of gratitude changes everything!

Or should that be grat-I-chewed?

Nothing to do with food?

No ... and Yes!

We are what we eat.

What we eat is up to us.

Taking responsibility for this isn't easy.

But, it's been the key to my success.

I know there are many other dieting systems.

I use 7 Words.

28 lbs in 28 weeks!

This is my target.

20 weeks in I've lost 24 lbs!

8 weeks to go and just another 4 lbs to lose.

No sweat!

I'm really pleased.